Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey all,
I have one question for you... There's this guy who I met online the other day on The Zone. I haven't known him for too long, but I think I like him / have a slight crush on him. He's funny (he makes me laugh a lot), he's caring, helpful, respectful, intelligent, and he seems like a sweet
person. Problem is... he's already with somebody else... but I still can't help it... I do hope I can have something with him in the future just to see how things go, even if it has to be an LDR... This would be my first long-distance internet and phone relationship, but if it works, so be it... I can't stop thinking about him sometimes, at least when I'm on the computer. I wonna get the courage up to tell him I like him one day, but I'm too scared that it'll screw up our friendship... I'm worried that he'll think I'm ridiculous or something along those lines... I don't want to sound all needy and stuff, it's just that I... don't know. Maybe I should get to know him a bit more first... Any advice on how to get over a guy in something like this would be greatly appreciated... Be blunt if you must...
Love to all
Diana
well diana, tell him how you feel. mabe its not as ridiculous as you think. mabe he likes you too. even though he has a girl friend, hes not married to her. Do what ever you have to do to get the boy. go for gold.
-Heath
what heather said. good luck to you.
Just keep this in mind, if he breaks up with his girl for you, or cheets on her with you, don't expect him to be faithhful to you, also if something did work out you would always have to know your the reason he's no longer with the origional girl, so at least in my opinion if your smart you won't do anything but be friends as long as he's going out with her.
yep agree with Heather. but remember it's only been a few days you said .. who is he btw? Lol haha
its the internet you could be talking to a complete fruitcake and he could be pretending so...keep a sense of perspective
well apart from the fact that its only been a few days, you do need to consider a lot of factors. Firstly, as he's told you he's in a relationship, he obviously is happy for you to know that he's with someone else, do you want to wreck that? and if so, could you really build your happyness on someone else's breakup?
Well... I'm going to be blunt here. First, I aggree with Blindguy and Sugar Baby. I don't care if the person is married or not, you don't come between 2 people in a relationship. That's not kewl. You wouldn't want someone doing that to you, so why do that. Let me tell you something okay? The Ice Master and I are now together, but for 4 years he has loved me, but was verry respectfull. He never once came between me and those I was with. He just tried to move on with the hope that someday there would be something more than a best friend or brother sister relationship between us. He never crossed the line in any way, but I knew he loved me. I hope he doesn't mind me sharing this, but I figured it would help. All I'm saying is, just do what he did, and if it's meant to be it will happen. It did for us. Good luck.
yep totally whatever will be will be .. bla bla Lol .. and as hard as it is sometimes when feelings are there, I've never come between others. I may still be honest with them and tell them how I feel but it's not as if I'm saying "and I'm wannting to take this further" but respect has to jump in! boy! I can certainly voutch how damn hard that is. good luck and you'll be right with knowing that things will fall into place when/where they're meant too.
Let's say you and this guy fall in love and he leaves his gf for you, and the 2 of you end up having a relationship. My questions are: Do you and he even live in the same country? the same state? the same city? are you going to move to be with him? is he going to move to be with you? are you going to be in person the same you are on line? will he be in person the same that he is on line? maybe he is and acts as he does on line because he has a gf now who is taking care of all his needs so he can spend time on line flirting and being nice and all as it is NOT costing him anything? My suggestion is: if you are truly in love with this guy do all you need to do and go meet him in person find out who he really is before having your dreams shuttered! Star
I'd have to agree with SugarBaby and Blindguy on this one too. It's okay to tell him how you feel, but don't get in the middle of two people in a relationship. And if you do end up telling him, don't make it sound like you're eager for him or something of that sort; just be respectful. Btw, who is this guy you like? You don't have to reveal it if you don't want to, but I'm just asking out of curiosity. I think I may have a slight idea as to who it might be, lol. From what your profile says, you've only been a member here for a couple of days, so I'm guessing based on what I know about who has logged on recently. Anyway, I know that it may be hard to handle situations like this sometimes, but if you go with the advice given to you by a few people here, you'll be fine. Good luck to you.
Chet
I'm afraid Goblin has a point this time round. You could indeed be talking to just about anyone and not even know it. Lets take Liam for example. Say Liam decides to create another user name and put that he is a female, age 19, from London. To the average internet user, this might as well be Liam's identity. If I've never met Liam, I could think he is someone completely different than who he really is. I'm not trying to pick on him in particular, just trying to illistrate a point. This person u r falling in love with could be some lesbian that lives down the street from you for all you know, or even a psychopathic killer. Even if u can see and are shown a picture, how do u know that the picture is the real person behind the keyboard?
I have to agree with KC. You never know who someone is in reality. I'd suggest you find out as much about him as possible. If he gives you his full name, then mentions something that could be worthy of being in the newspaper (I'm an example of that so I said it) google him! Also, find out who his friends are... if he has any on this site, ask them about him. But... be subtle. Um... I'll have more when I'm not sleep-deprived.
Tell him how you feel then leave the rest upto God, good luck and God Bless you.
It happens, girl. Swear it can happen...
Well, trying to look at this objectively, since I'm the GF of the guy you like, I imagine it must be extremely difficult to like some one who's already in a relationship, and I'm sorry that... things have to turn out this way. However, looking at it from the other perspective, I hope you'll take some of the advice these zoners have given you and not make this too much harder for me. We love each other, and we have something I know I could never find with anyone. I know he loves me too, but some one trying to persuade him otherwise might cause problems in the future. Chet is my first bf... we've been going out now for a year and nine months, and loving every minute of it. As things are now, I'd be devastated without him, so I hope you won't make this any harder for me. No hard feelings meant, btw. I'd still like to be good friends if you so desire in the future, and I have absolutely no problem with you and Chet being friends... I'm not a posessive jealous type, I'm just letting my opinion be heard. God bless y'all.
Love,
Amy Celine
Aw I feel bad!!! It's not everyday you fall in love... But I wouldn't be like Chet's girlfriend and have no problems with you if I was in her shoes. They've been going out for a year and nine months now... Do you really want to ruin that? I'm sure that if Chet really does end up falling for you someday, Amy wouldn't be so carefree as she is now!!! Just remember, there will be other guys coming and most likely, they won't be taken!!!
Love, Sexy
What about Chet's feelings? We have here 2 girls that love him and want him. What does he want? A year and nine months is not a very long time. It seems so, but most relationships begin to be tested after usually 3 to 4 years. I am not trying to say that Amy and Chat will fall apart, and I sincerely hope they have found their true love in each other, but things can change as people grow and go through different experiences. I hope all goes well for all three people here and keep a realistic perspective in things. Star
Hi all,
Well, the situation's all straightened out now, at least... I was able to talk to Diana myself the other day. As for how I feel about it, I do not plan on giving up what I have with Amy, because I know that what I have with her I would never find with anyone else. I mean, she is one of the most important individuals to have come into my life, and I love her wholeheartedly. She's always been my dreamgirl (yes, I liked her for 2 years before we started going out), and when I finally had the privilege of having her as a girlfriend, I started loving her in a way I've never loved anyone before. I've come a long way since then, and I think I've gotten too used to her now, lol, so I'm not willing to let her go. Not only is she my girlfriend, but she's also my best friend (in fact, she's the only one who probably knows almost everything there is to know about me), and it's not always that easy to get to a level of ease with someone like that; at least not for me, lol. Another thing, I don't know how well a long-distance relationship would go for me. Yes, they sometimes work, but I guess I'd have to know the person real well in person first to be able to handle that. Okay, that's all I have to say for now. Talk to y'all later.
Peace,
Chet
Hey all,
Thanks so much for the advice you have given me here... I feel much better about it now, lol.
Diana